Connected Hearts Carlsbad
A community for women in North County San Diego where genuine connection, personal growth and shared joy make life richer.
The Rhythm of Connected Hearts
The signature gathering is the heartbeat of Connected Hearts, where we come together each month for a thoughtfully facilitated evening.
Between gatherings, members can stay connected through a virtual Connection Call, an Unplugged social get-together, and a Heart-to-Heart member pairing. Each happens once a month and all are completely optional.
Women also get together on their own, whether it’s to play mahjong, pursue a shared interest, or grab coffee, as friendships often extend beyond the community itself.
Together, these opportunities create a natural rhythm that builds familiarity, strengthens relationships and helps a genuine sense of community take shape.
What You’ll Experience at a Signature Gathering
While each gathering has its own theme, every evening follows a consistent flow designed to help you settle in, engage and enjoy the experience.
What It’s Really Like to Be Part of Connected Hearts
Fun, uplifting evenings that leave me with that special feeling that lingers after getting together with a group of great women for the kind of talking and laughing you do when you get together away from work, family, etc. You get to be the self that perhaps others don’t get to see out of the usual context.
I immediately knew I was in the right place when I started having genuine conversations with people and realized everyone was just being themselves. Nobody was trying to impress anyone. The women were welcoming, sincere, and kind.
I’ll be honest, I was nervous before my first gathering. I’d had some not-so-great experiences in other groups, and I wasn’t sure this would be any different. But I felt comfortable and safe almost immediately. I could just be myself.
What surprised me most was how honest the space feels. There’s a warmth and authenticity here that’s hard to find. I’m someone who takes time to ease in, and Connected Hearts has given me exactly that – a natural, genuine way to build real friendships without any pressure. I’m so grateful this community exists.
Connected Hearts gives me opportunities for self-growth and reflection while also getting to know genuine, kind women.
I love that there are several opportunities each month to get to know people on a deeper level, and that the gatherings are guided, so I don’t have to worry about what to say or how to move a conversation forward.
Before my first gathering, I was a mix of excited, curious, and very nervous. I remember wondering if I’d feel out of place or regret coming, and I definitely had moments where I almost didn’t go.
But something in me still wanted to show up, and I’m really glad I did. Driving home, I felt calmer and more at ease than I did on the way there. I remember just feeling grateful I didn’t let my hesitation win.
Before going I was curious and not sure what to expect. I have to say that I did almost get cold feet, just because it seemed like an extroverted activity for an introvert like me. But I figured why not try and see what it’s like
When I saw how welcoming and open everyone was, I felt very comfortable and at ease. I especially liked the way people shared and responded to the sharing of others. It felt like everyone was really being seen and heard in ways that don’t always happen in groups.
Connected Hearts has reinforced for me that there is a community of support, friendship, and laughter out there if you open yourself up to it. Participating is like receiving a superhero cape, it makes me feel brave, but also wrapped in comfort and warmth.
It’s also reminded me of what I value in myself and in my friendships: authenticity, kindness, and strength of character.
FAQs
Free social groups can be a great way to meet people, but Connected Hearts was created to offer something different: a community where connection isn’t simply left to chance.
I personally design and facilitate the member experience, from how new members are welcomed and how gatherings unfold to the ways members get to know one another between gatherings. There’s thoughtful structure built in so it’s easier to participate, feel included and get to know one another.
I also actively nurture the culture of the community. Kindness, openness, mutual respect and goodwill are values I take seriously because who is in the room and how we treat one another matter just as much as what we do together.
And because Connected Hearts is an ongoing community, you’re not continually starting over in a room full of new faces.
The result is more than a calendar of social events. It’s a community you can genuinely become part of.
Almost every member has told me she worried about the same thing before attending her first gathering. Connected Hearts isn’t the kind of place where you have to figure things out on your own. Every gathering follows a welcoming, guided flow, so you’re never left wondering where to go, what to do or how to join in.
Women often tell me they’re surprised by how quickly they feel comfortable enough to relax and enjoy themselves.
You’re in good company. Many of our members describe themselves as introverts.
Because every gathering follows a thoughtful flow, you don’t have to compete for attention, make small talk with a room full of strangers or figure out how to join in. There’s room for different personalities and ways of participating, so you can be yourself.
You’ll never be pressured to share something you’re uncomfortable sharing. You’re welcome to participate at the level that feels right for you.
That said, Connected Hearts is a participatory community. You don’t have to be outgoing or an open book, but being willing to join in, share some of yourself, let others get to know you and take a genuine interest in them is part of what makes connection possible.
Many women find they naturally share more as they become comfortable with the group.
Life happens, and no one is expected to attend everything Connected Hearts offers. Our Signature Gatherings follow a regular schedule to make planning easier, and the opportunities between gatherings are there when they work for you.
What matters isn’t perfect attendance. It’s joining with the intention of being an active part of the community by participating, letting others get to know you and taking a genuine interest in them.
Because great relationships aren’t only about finding the right people. What we bring to them matters, too.
How we communicate, the assumptions we make, the patterns we fall into, the choices we make and how well we understand ourselves all shape the way we relate to others.
The better we understand ourselves and others, the better equipped we are to build healthy, fulfilling relationships. That’s why personal growth is foundational to Connected Hearts.
Our monthly themes come from things we all encounter in real life. Some are thought-provoking, some are playful and many are a little of both.
Past and upcoming themes include:
- The Confidence to Speak Up: Finding your voice and communicating with greater clarity and confidence.
- Navigating Life’s Transitions: Exploring what happens when one chapter ends, the next hasn’t quite begun and you’re figuring out what comes next.
- The Hidden Power of Fun: Why play, novelty, and lightheartedness matter more to our well-being than we sometimes realize.
- Relationships That Bring Out the Best in Us: Exploring how the people we surround ourselves with can influence how we think, feel, grow and experience life.
Drop-in events are designed for flexibility. Connected Hearts is designed to create community.
With an ongoing membership, the room isn’t starting from scratch every month. Members become familiar with one another, get to know the culture of the community and have multiple opportunities to connect throughout the month.
Membership provides the continuity that gives relationships time to develop and a genuine sense of belonging to grow.
No, you’re not paying for friends. There are plenty of ways to meet women for free, so it’s understandable to initially put Connected Hearts in the same category as Meetup groups, Facebook groups and other free communities.
Meeting women isn’t what you’re paying for. You’re investing in a community that creates the conditions for genuine friendships to develop.
Many women invest in a gym, yoga or Pilates membership because it provides structure, expert guidance and a supportive environment for their physical well-being.
I bring that same level of intention to Connected Hearts through thoughtfully designed experiences and skilled facilitation. I create the structure, activities and flow that make it easier for everyone to participate, feel included, get to know one another and enjoy being together.
Just as important is the culture. I actively nurture kindness, openness, mutual respect, inclusion and goodwill because who we are together matters just as much as what we do together. My involvement also extends beyond the gatherings through different ways for members to connect throughout the month.
That kind of community doesn’t happen by accident. It takes intention, expertise, time and care.
Because I want you to understand what Connected Hearts is before deciding whether membership is worth the investment.
Connected Hearts can be difficult to fully understand from a website. Walking into a gathering, seeing how it’s facilitated, meeting some of the women and experiencing the community for yourself gives you context that a number on a page can’t.
That’s why women who are interested in membership attend a Signature Gathering as a guest first.
If you’re interested in continuing afterward, we’ll have a conversation about membership, including the cost, commitment and what’s included.
There’s no set age range for Connected Hearts. What matters far more than your number of trips around the sun is your energy, openness, curiosity and approach to life. The themes we explore, from relationships and communication to confidence, change, fun and self-awareness, are relevant throughout our lives.
Connected Hearts is for women who want to keep learning, growing, experiencing new things and engaging fully with life.
If age matters to you, most of our current members are in their late 40s, 50s and early 60s.
No. Connected Hearts is not affiliated with any political party, ideology or religion.
Women with different beliefs and backgrounds are welcome here. Our gatherings intentionally stay away from politics, religion and other polarizing topics so we can focus on the things that connect us, not what divides us.
You don’t need to think or believe the same things to belong here. What matters is respecting one another’s differences without trying to persuade, judge or change one another.
Yes. All members agree to our Connected Hearts Promise, a simple set of shared values and commitments that help shape and protect the culture of the community.
It reflects how we treat one another and helps keep Connected Hearts welcoming, inclusive, respectful and enjoyable for everyone who is part of it.
